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Sometimes it’s not the labor nurse who is giving an encouraging word but the patient themselves. I recently came across a notepad from work. I had on the very first line these words…… A very wise patient once told me……You are where you belong. It must have been a quiet night that night. I read and laughed at my amusing writing with a friend. Together we remembered the “good” old days. When the old timers, the nurse’s with more seniority, ruled the unit. That is when the younger bunch of us got the worst room assignments. My friend remembers when I would be given the farthest assignments down the hallway. She remembers me waddling uncomfortably carrying my fourth baby. It was a difficult time for me. Yet I survived. Fast forward to today. I told her about a position that’s open for LDRP but…….It’s part time and it’s midnight shift. I have had it with the midnight shift. I worked it for 17 years of my life. I want a day job. And then suddenly the words came out of my mouth…….I do have a job called MOM. Reflecting back to the words the patient told me…..You are where you belong. Yes, I am. I am where I belong. Right now I am not a labor nurse but I am a mother. I do not get paid the wages of a nurse. I get paid in endless hugs and kisses. Now that is truly priceless.

I worked as a Labor and Delivery nurse for 17 years. For the most part I loved my job. I loved the one on one time I shared with my patients. I hated to chart. I would often get yelled at by my head nurse for talking too much to my patients. She never quite understood that for me the patient came first and the charting came last. I wanted my patients to have the best possible care. If I could do it all over again I would have become a nurse midwife. I am presently looking into becoming a labor doula. I look forward to starting my own business someday.

During labor a patient can truly sense if her nurse is a caring individual or someone who just doesn’t care at all. I experienced many coworkers who just didn’t care about their patients. From the comments they made to the comments that my patients would tell me after their nurse just finished her shift.  Many times my patients would thank me for explaining the labor process to them. I would often get great big hugs from my patients after their deliveries. I miss being a Labor and Delivery nurse. By becoming a doula, I feel that it will help me get back into the health care field on a volunteer basis first. Who knows…..I might land a job as a Labor and Delivery nurse in a new hospital with a different head nurse.

In 1985 I was accepted in associate degree Nursing program. My son was four at the time. I remember taking him to college with me. They had a daycare program there that fit my budget. I was working at the time at a local hospital as a nurse’s aide. Back then I didn’t need a college degree to be a nurse’s aide as some states have that as a requirement now. Being a nurse’s aide gave me an advantage over the other nursing students. I remember my medical surgical instuctor asking me if I could handle a difficult patient with a list that was 10 pages long with details on his condition and medications. I said yes. I remember her handing it to me and it unraveling onto the floor. The other nursing students gasped in horror. I remember several of them helping me that day turn the man every 2 hours. They told me they were glad that I had him and not them. Nursing is not about picking and choosing who you want as a patient. It’s not taking the most easiest patient. It’s about being challenged to your fullest extent. It’s about learning to handle crisis situations with both the patient and the family members. It’s about holding an old man’s hand as he is dying and he has no family to be with him at his final moments of living. It’s about caring and sharing a human life changing experience. Being a nurse takes the dedication that only a mother would know. As mothers we are attentive to our children’s every need. Just like a nurse attentive to her patients needs. Whether it is oral hygiene, wound care, or passing medications. A nurse’s job is that of a caregiver. Just like a mother’s job is for her children. I loved being a nurse. I love being a mother. Yes you can be a mother and a nursing student/nurse too.

When I worked as a nurse, people would always say to me ……. Do I know you? You look familiar to me. Do you live……..? I would always tell them no. On a few occasions I would have de ja vu experiences at work. I would always shut it off. For the most part when I was in high school I had them all the time. I remember once telling my boyfriend that we needed to stop parking and leave because the cops were coming. Sure enough within minutes of me saying it the police came. There’s nothing like getting caught naked to ruin the moment LOL. I never developed my abilities any further. I have always felt that I have been keenly aware of other peoples problems. So much so that they open up to me or I am able to tell them what they are about to do or say. Am I a mind reader? I don’t think so. I am just another person with a familiar face. I have only lived my life one time around. Oh what a glorious life it is.